Body image and Self esteem, and the power of the mind.

Sep 12, 2020
4 min read

Hey guys,

Today the Topic is Body image and Self Esteem.

This is such a huge topic and so much can be said on this, we can break into several series and expand each tentacle to try and get to the scope of it.

But there is much more than a body right? There is the mind and the subconscious...

This is a dear subject to my heart, as you know I am completing an amazing and powerful program called Confident Me, and I thought I would talk about a huge ingredient of our psychological wellbeing.

Positive psychology has defined mental health as positive psychological functioning and use “psychological wellbeing.” to describe this.

Lets look at terms:

What is body imagine?

The mental picture of how you see your body, and the way you feel about your body when you look in the mirror, so here you have the mental image and the emotion.

Body image is can influence your self esteem which in turn influences your confidence, however this influence is linked to how your paradigms are built and how healthy you see your body.

Do you like your body?

Why?

What could be different?

Why?

To whom are you comparing?

Did you know what truly makes you feel good is beyond any physical construct?, we tend to believe that going to plastic surgeries and changing our look will solve the problem,

the "problem" is usually deep rooted.

Changing our body, looks and outer world is merely a quick fix, is like putting a plaster on a wound and hope it heals...It is indeed satisfactory the feeling of change, a temporary boost in confidence, but if you are not solving the issue it is just an illusion which that feeling will not last.

When you are able to acknowledge, accept and embrace how your body is right now, the weight, the scars, the mass whatever it is that you feel uneasy or dislike about, the moment you are able to accept, you will see what brings you confidence is more than your physical attributes.

That woman you are looking at and admiring for her body, she too have her insecurities, therefore it is a mental state, you are brilliant the way you are.

Self esteem is what we think and feel about ourselves.

The Link between Body Image and Self Esteem

Self esteem and body image influence one another, they are directly linked to how you feel, think and behave.

We are used to "don't like my hips" automatically we do the utmost to hide it, resulting not feeling good about yourself, decreasing self esteem and affecting other areas of our live such as confidence.

However the opposite is also true: if you don't see the value in yourself or if you don't value yourself, you will not be open to see the things from a positive and healthy perspective and so you will not feel that your body is good enough, resulting in not respecting your body how it deserve and having a direct affect in the way you feel about yourself which will affect everything else.

When you start focusing on negatives you will be inside that bubble and all that you see or feel will be inside that bubble.

Example:

Negative thinking

MIND "I don't like my body, look at that, how can anyone love me?, I wish I looked like Berney..."

ACTIONS "Let me order that pizza, YES Netflix chill in bed with some crisps, oh maybe a burger.

Exercise? Uhhh... I have pain in my body, I don't feel well."

SELF ESTEEM " No, I rather stay home, others are better than me, there must be something wrong with me"

Positive Thinking

MIND "I believe in myself, I love my body and accept myself the way I am"

ACTIONS "Eating this healthy meal, drinking plenty of water, What time is the exercise? self care Oh yes baby:.."

SELF ESTEEM " WOWO lets go sexy jeans, I am amazing"

You can see that you can change the way you look at your self thus impacting how you feel about yourself, is a healthier and happier state of mind, however some are so used to be in a space of complaint, a space of pain, of victimhood that subconsciously they don't want to move forward, even the they believe their can, often they find themselves giving excuses why they are struggling to move.

This is a normal part of the process of change and growing, however a decision must be made, a why understood.

Create a notebook where you can record your process, is not what you see in the mirror that will change what has to change inside, but the way at how you look in the mirror.

Give permission to yourself to wear your confidence, to drop your negative thinking patterns and be ready to believe in yourself.

You are brilliant,

with a purpose, your body does not define you, your actions do.