Let's chat about Motherhood...

Hey guys,

how yall doing??

Is mother's day so I thought we could chat about Motherhood, how exciting right?

Here in grey and cold London, sitting in the waiting area to be seen by the doctor ( I am totally ok just a routine check-up), let me chat with you guys for a little...

Motherhood!!! yeah, let’s talk about it.

you know people share all the great aspects of having kids and all the beauty of being a mother, but once you express the other side you are looked at differently.

well let me say it here,

Is damn hard this thing called motherhood

and is also super scary, no matter how comfortable it may seem.

Is Hard When you have a support system let alone when you don’t!

Mamas I got ya!!! I feel ya in every sense of the way. I had my first baby I was a teenager, and after 30 I had my second, let me start by saying WOW! My mornings are a rush, stressful and crazy lol sometimes I feel like those 2 hours were my ENTIRE DAY!!

If he is not dropping the coffee before we walk out the house rushing, he is taking his clothes off...

But then they smile and you melt... Motherhood is being strong and trying to maintain your sanity when they go to sleep ahh!!

Five Interesting FACTS:

Did you know that children DO NOT keep couples together? statistics say that the period from when the baby is born to when the baby is 5 changes of a break up is higher, due to the stress and changes the couple goes through with the new reality and routine.

True story, the changes in your life, body and spirit after a baby is born are real.

So allow yourself time and don‘t be too harsh on yourself, we have time ( unless we are rushing to take them to the nursery and then go to work 😂).

Your house will never be the same, I remember when I had the house spotless at all times, now I continue trying, I enjoy the little time when I am alone instead of sleeping I tidy up and light up the candles, put my slow jams on lay in the sofa and enjoy those last 5 minutes of clean and peaceful house (ah ah ah )

Motherhood can be exhausting and lonely, you can sometimes feel trapped and frustrated depending on your support system, hours of sleep, help, the number of things you do during the day, this is totally ok, learn to ask for help!

As much as you love your kid's mothers feel the needs of a day without them, like a treat, most mothers feel bad for confessing this but is totally OK ladies!

Oh Yes SEX LIFE... mmm let's say that will be tricky ah ah ah for some, however, some women have expressed that sex became better after babies, interesting perspectives.

Against the common belief that once you become a mother your life is based on JUST BEING A MOTHER...

(well it does feel like this majority of the time),

You CAN still achieve YOUR GOALS, still work towards being where you want to be in life, Your dreams shouldn't have to be put aside because you are a mother instead you should go for it because it is POSSIBLE.

Don't limit yourself

Self-care is a MUST!

Also, it is so important to self-care, we must not forget about that, it is not because we are mums that we ONLY think about our kids, REMEMBER for our kids and family to be OK we also must be in our best versions.

so remember to take time to breathe, rest, self-care.

ideas of self cate for Mothers

- having salt or bubbly bath with candles

- watch movies or series

- write

- meditate

- do staff that you enjoy

- have sex ( it works wonders with your dopamine)

- dance

- go out

- sing

- bake

- paint

- manicure, pedicure

So I challenge you to pick something you really enjoy doing and commit yourself to do it weekly.

Wishing you a great week and a Lovely MOther's day, share with us your motherhood struggles, victories, moments of pride, venting letters so e can post (you can request to be anonymous and your identity will not be revealed)

Is not easy but we are here to support each other with Love your coach Nadia xx