Hey all,
Today I was called to talk about something that really hits me fully and I so much feel like everything could be different if we had grown up being educated on how our emotions work and with the core value in our life being loving ourselves.
You know when you see a girl stuck in a toxic and unhealthy relationship, searching for excuses to stay and continue being unhappy for a false hope of an ideal relationship...??
yes... that moment that this girl is in denial...
And you just want to grab her and scream out how much better her life can be without this other person, and how much more she can accomplish if she just believes in herself.
I feel this way because I have been there, I was once that girl, full of false hope, in denial and stuck! This becomes hard to see because you feel just how it really feels.
Often people ask: what makes a girl accepting so much bull**?,
we can probably say these people don't know what real love is, or accept that we don't know much about self love...
Outch...
This is a hard reality, that no one who is living in that bubble is ready to acknowledge, because love is pure, unique and is capable of great things...
I said LOVE, not pain, no cheating, no disrespect, not abuse and definitely not when you have more unhappy moments than happy ones with the person who should be your ESCAPE from the world!
A girl will stay in denial for various reasons:
- not wanting to confront the truth
- fear of being alone
- loving him more than loving herself
- lack of self love
- fear of abuse
- belief of needing the partner (for whatever reason)
- not valuing herself
She can stay for one or all reasons, other reasons may apply, and she will stay for as long as she can take the bull***
and this is the most honest truth.
You can grab her, tell her, show her, draw the FACTS, give her the most amazing speech ever, until she makes that decision, she ain't going no where!
She knows where she stands!
She knows how she feels...
And she knows she is living a LIE.
Better than anyone that can point a finger!
However she has choose to stay, and until she decides to put herself first and create the life she wants, she will continue staying in a toxic and unhealthy relationship, because that is what she knows, that is what is familiar to her and is less scary than leaving and leaving that chapter behind and opening the door to the unknown.
So she stays where she feels safe and allows all limiting beliefs to run her life and accepting being treated less than she deserves.
Kinda like being conformed with what life gave her, when deep down she knows, she has the power, but yet she chooses to stay.
until the day that "breathing becomes a must"...
With Love
Nadinha xx