6 Steps to step out of feeling broken.
- Aug 23, 2020
- 4 min read
He guys,
I wanted to talk about some real stuff,
raw and unfiltered.
There are so many people around the world walking half death,
just surviving ...
Just taking one breath at a time.
Sometimes others ideals get in the way...
Experiences get in the way...
Expectations get in the way...
This is probably a really random post, but is deep, when I scroll down social media and see how many people need healing, how many are crying out for help, how many gave up, how many are broken...
I hear stories,
I pay attention to clients who are desperate to get out of a bubble...
I hear ...
I feel it ...
Sometimes that bubble feels better than reality...
is so familiar that you rather stay than walk away...
Is kind of an escape...
Yea,
I get that...
I was once in a bubble like that ...
It was harder to burst the bubble than to let go ...
Because of the sense of security you have created around your bubble...
An addiction
A relief...
The perfect escape...
For some an object
others a person...
and a few a mental state... a bunch of memories that create a wanted feeling ...
Let the world talk about real stuff
What is going on in everybody's head ...
Some believe they are not normal because they don't fit into a "typical" description,
some are afraid to talk about they darkness as they fear of being different... judged ... looked different ...
Could we just make it easier for people to be themselves?
So many people hurt and broken...
As you grow up
You are promised a fake reality which you fight for
one day you realise you fail ...
BUT YOU DIDNT...
your expectations failed you ...
because you were chasing a non existence reality instead of living and breathing ...
If you are right now sitting at home feeling you have failed...
Thinking that your world is over...
LET ME tell you something,
right now it may not even get through you, but I hope something will...
PAIN IS TEMPORARY, you are not the VICTIM of your experiences, you are GOLD no matter how broken you feel, You are powerful no matter if someone put you down, you are GREAT no matter if you made a fool out of yourself, you are amazing no matter how you feel ...
Even if it hurts,
don't give up on yourself ...
You can give up many things...
NEVER ON YOURSELF.
Whatever is meant to be IT WILL BE, life has this tricks, you are stronger than you think you are, every day you are a step closer to heal yourself into the better version of you... That is the best you can do for yourself.
Start by waking up everyday look in the mirror and admire yourself.
I PROMISE YOU it will be better.
6 STEPS TO STEP OUT OF FEELING BROKEN:
1- Make a decision - decide you no longer want to feel broken.
Acknowledging that you are not in the right place is the first stage, and then you must make a decision: continue being the victim or walk towards change - the choice is there available you just gotta be strong and make a choice.
Always choose you...
Write it down, decide that you commit yourself to work towards feeling better one day at a time. Make a plan, ACT on your plan and know that not everyday is the same and sometimes you will not follow through, but don't give up, get yourself back up and keep trying.
2- Remove yourself from the scene - whatever it may be that makes you feel broken, remove yourself from that environment.
When me and my partner broke up one big mistakes we have made was still sharing the same environment, it was toxic for both, things were getting mix-up, feelings were getting in the way and we would end up hurting each other more.
If a relationship ends for whatever reason (even if you will become friends eventually) have space from each other, remove yourself from the environment.
The same applies for friends and family.
Take time to evaluate your life, your feelings, what you have don't focus on the lack of... You don't loose anything that was meant to be yours.
If someone wants to be in your life they will make sure you know that.
3 -Forgive - make peace with what has happen, forgive the people, the experiences and yourself - Forgiving doesn't mean you need to get back with someone, or you need to talk to people, it means you are looking for peace of mind and you deserve it.
Forgiveness is beneficial for your health, mental health and happiness.
You cannot move forward in frustration
Exercise ideas
- write letters to those that you want to forgive and explain how you feel (don't send them) at this point you are still very hurt and your energy will show and attract what you are sending out.
- write a list of things you can be appreciative for on the people, experiences and/or yourself.
4- Let Go - time to put things behind, stop dwelling on stuff you cannot control, write a letter, vent, and burn it or rip it, decide is time to put it behind. (do this exercise as many times as you need)
Exercise ideas
- journaling - writing is a mindful practice which benefits you in many ways. write about your day, your worries, thoughts, ideas, gratitude, plans, get it out.
- write the letters and burn or rip it
- Full moon ritual
- get rid of presents of things that can attach you to what broke you - things also have energy.
5- Start a new hobby - like exercising - going out, do something that you used to enjoy.
- meet with friends,
- go out
- eat ice cream,
- dance,
- have fun.
6 - Create a goal and get up everyday until you achieve it, focusing on you is the best healing you can do. Learning how to love yourself if the best you can do to yourself.
- a promotion
- body goals
- career
- learn something new everyday
- self care
- self love challenges
- health and wellness challenges
REMEMBER Every day it gets easier, record your progress, get an accountability buddy, a coach, look for professional help if you are struggling such a counsellor or contact your GP.
Do not think you are alone, there are people that care and are ready to give you support.
I hope this post has helped you or someone who you love
and that these 6 steps were helpful.
Love and Light
A mama Coach Nadia xx
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