Conditioned Brains: 3 Limiting beliefs you should bin it.

Hey all,

Lets chat about Conditioned brains and 3 LIMITING Beliefs we have and should bin it.

I am starting this post by asking you a question:

"WHO ARE YOU?"

It might seem such a simple question but I ask you to sit and write the answer.

I mean for real,

who are you?

It is funny because for most people this is easily answered

and others like me, complex.

I would like you to also think about something you don't believe you can do!

Sometimes people are quick to say "I am not that kind of person...", "I am not capable of doing this or that..." and so on...

And now I ask you: "Who says?", "where did that belief came from?"

Can you find the root of that belief?

You see,

Most of the time we are dictated by the fears, values, and beliefs that we hold, some of these fears, values, and beliefs are conditioned by the experiences we had throughout our lifespan, or even before we were born.

We tend along the way, to make a decision of who we are based on factors that are nothing to do with who we are in reality.

To be honest most of us do not know the real us, as we are so used to play a role others inflicted on us, and anytime we do anything but what is expected we are crucified, pinned, labeled as crazy...

I know you might think I am nuts right now ahahah but stay with me...

I once was on that side of the table...

Let me give you an example:

Imagine a puppy, that was abused by his owner when he comes to live with you until he learns that he can trust you, every time you are a bit excited or you react in a way that will remind him of the abuse he might hide from you or start barking.

--> The same ideology applies to people who have gone through a traumatic experiences.

Is all wired and conditioned in our subconscious.

Church always said from as long as we can remember history "give me a child until he is 7 and I will bring you a man of church", similarly psychology says that the most important years to impact who we are today is our primary socialisation between 0-7years.

Those are the prime years where we are absorbing everything our senses receive from external stimuli and form our blue print which then dictate our behaviour today as grown adults.

Therefore if you are questioning yourself why are you continuously in the same cycle and seems impossible to break or come out of an unwanted situation, here is the reason why.

It is possible to train your mindset, to acknowledge your blueprint and re-create what you want instead of settling for what is. For years we have heard many things that have knocked down out our confidence on our abilities that lead us to live a life different from what we truly desire. To feel better we say things like;

"This is the life God gave me"

"I have kids therefore I..."

"I can't..."

"I am safe..."

usually this ways of thinking (our belief system) was created as we growing up, with our primary socialisation, experiences, throughout our life, and even others ideals and "norms" that automatically gives us a sensation of "I am not doing what I suppose to do" if you are acting in a way other will judge you (even if that is what brings you closer to yourself), and so you will see many settling for an image that is appealing for others while accepting being in a FREE & invisible prison cell. BECAUSE the prison cell is in your head.

Until you free yourself from others expectations and act to make others happy you will never get there, because people are not easy to please and along the way you loose who you are and because a prisoner of your own cell.

3 LIMITING BELIEF YOU SHOULD BIN IT:

1- I am not good enough:

Life happens to all of us and things happen, we learn that people can sometimes hurt us, let us down, and with this is we often blame ourselves, is like we loose faith in ourselves and in our capacity to love or make decisions;

"maybe if I was like this or that..." or "I shouldn't of..." or "Is all my fault" -" I am not lovable..."

You are not what happened to you, those that you believe they didn't you wrong were on a different path and journey and they acted out of their own reality.

Nothing that happens to you take your value away.

You are worthy even when you think you are broken, just remember you were never broken and you don't need to be fixed.

You are enough+

2- He/she are the reason for:

Learn how to take ownership for your LIFE, your ACTIONS, and your RESULTS. Because you are where you are right now because of you,

of a decision you made, and action you took either because a belief (wether you had it or not).

No ones owns you anything, the world didn't do anything to you,

you take what life gives you and you choose how you deal with it, how you want to see it.

Remember you either WIN or LEARN A LESSON - either way there is always you being able to stand up for where you are right now.

3- Being vulnerable is being weak.

This one is a big one, I for the longest were "too proud to be weak..." I had no idea what I was doing to myself, YOUR ARE NOT WEAK because you are vulnerable.

any relationship to be real, raw and last (genuinely) you need to be open and vulnerable with each other, relationships often break because people play games and are too afraid of open and raw conversations.

learn first how to be vulnerable with you, get to know yourself so you know how raw you can be without feeling uncomfortable, if of other cannot handle remember is nothing to do with you but them...

EVERYTHING we do is a reflection of who we are, we project what we are, what we have inside, if you have love within that is what you will project.

Wishing you a great week ahead.

with Love

Nadia xx