Shifting negative Beliefs and unhealthy Patterns or cycles.

A belief is "an acceptance that something exists or is true, especially one without truth" (dictionary), is usually installed in us throughout our lifespan, from our parents/carers, environment, friends, society and experiences.

An unhealthy pattern and cycle is when something "negative" happens consistently, that appears various times in a cycle. This can be a thought, an experience, a critique, people, an action and so forth.

When we are 'stuck' into an unhealthy pattern we often question ourselves why do we keep having the same experiences, thoughts, friends, relationships and so on over and over again. Sometimes most of us act from a place of judgement and brush it of, "life goes on..." we say, or maybe we end up using this as evident to reaffirm negative and unhealthy beliefs about ourselves that live at the back of our minds, sch as "I am not good enough", "not worthy", "not deserving of this", and so sabotaging where we want to be.

"I have always been scared to jump out of my comfort zone, as I was dearly attached to the fears and negative limiting beliefs that I had due to my life experiences and those that were conditioned to me while growing up. I always felt that i was not good enough, deserving of having all, that I did not belong and that I had to work really hard too achieve what I needed. So and so that when I reached a stage in my life where I was where I wanted to be, I often had moments where I felt low and allowed this old stories to keep playing and taking over due to being addicted to that pattern, and so my brain would search for stuff that no longer exists (or never existed) to make up a story and prove me why I should or shouldn't act a certain way.

This was a cycle and that my brain was used to!"

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Can you see an unhealthy pattern in your life?

Great that is the most brave step we take to make a change.

1- Becoming aware of it, this will lead us to question it, and when we get here we must stop ourselves from judging our emotions and actions.

2- Accept it, this creates a new reality for us and removes the judgemental energy from our thoughts - when you truly accept a part of you, you become compassionate about it and look at it from a space of love instead of judgemental

3- Own it, own your truth, your stories that you have created and lived all your life, understand that is not the world that is against you, or that you are unlucky, or that so and so is to blame, Own the responsibility over your life.

"I am the only one responsible for my life"

4- Question yourself: Ask yourself what is the underline belief that I have? why do I feel this way? why does it keep coming up? where is the roots of this belief? - All stories that we live on have its roots, and we have just along the way throughout our life experiences found reasons why we should believe them, is time to detach and find out what stories you keep replaying in your life, that stop you from getting where you want to get.

Now is time to re-write a new story! Form a space of acceptance, being open to embrace instead of judging.

Babe if you don't confront it and resolve it within you it will continue coming back.

"Even when you move into a space where the reality that you so much desire finally has arrived, it will keep coming up.

You must sort that out!"

Because sometimes your subconscious is still attached to that old story that you have carried all your life or for whatever time, and so things keeps cropping back on in our head and life to remind us of:

The lesson that we need to learn and the cycle that needs to be broken.

REMEMBER everything is a mirror of ourselves and so we are always in receipt of a lesson.

- what is it that keeps popping up?

- why?

- how does it make me feel?

- what is the lesson here?

This lesson may be for various reasons:

- To stop that cycle from happening over and over again

- To help you to grow spiritually and help you jumping to another level

- To step in to the new level or reality you must be in.

To finalise let's Look at an example:

"I remember being stuck into unhealthy relationships, where I felt unloved and being taken advantage of on a regular basis, however I kept continuing putting myself available to help those that clearly were not seeing my value."

Story: Did not felt worthy of being loved and had to over give to be accepted - Wanting to be be loved and accepted.

Actions: Over give and help others while lacking self love and self caring - wanting to feel loved and needed - Feeling incomplete and that it was never enough, looking for external validation to feel capable or worthy

Lesson:

Self love and self care are important to feel secure and not need external validation to feel worth it. Once you detach from the external opinion and value your wants and needs first you require no acceptance.

Some people are not meant to be in your life.

Something different needs to happen to shift these emotions and this old story.

Rewrite the story: You must care for yourself first, physically, emotionally and spiritually to care for others, giving from a full cup.

When we look at something or someone, or say or act, if we do it from a place of love is always supported and the more we put out the more we are attracting.

I wish you all a great week...

with Love

Nadinha xx

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