Healthy Relationships Habits

This is a really wanted and needed topic;

Many people are stuck in unhealthy relationships without being able to distinguish an unhealthy habit from a healthy one.

You know you are on a healthy relationship when you and your partner feel strongly connected and are able to be independent at the same time.

You feel safe, respected, trusting, have great communication and trust each other, Oh yes and are able to have fun together this is essential!!

Let's break down these words, shall we?

Healthy relationship habits:

Safe – Able to be vulnerable with each other, open about feelings, thoughts, and emotions. It is so important that you can be raw, real, and unfiltered with your partner, as it builds a foundation where you can be comfortable and be able o always be yourself.

Respect – Accept differences and embrace them, respect points of view, and never do anything that you wouldn’t like to be done to you (in case you don’t know- a great way to check!).

Communication – Being able to talk about everything openly and honestly knowing that both are willing to listen attentively. If something doesn’t feel right, you should have the freedom to voice your concerns to your partner.

Trust - knowing that you have each other’s back, following promises, and being there for each other.

Independence – Being able to spend time with friends, alone, to do things independently and find each other when you must. It is super crucial that you can be your own person.

Fun – Do things together – intimacy – affection and quality time

Both partners through communication decide together which codes of health are important for their relationship. In a relationship that the base is love these rules shared above should apply.

The best insight:

When something doesn’t feel right, do not bottle up, or be afraid to say it, express it… Tell your partner and talk about it, I can assure you, this is the only way in which people know what you need or want.

Being able to be vulnerable and express your needs and feelings to your better half is the best thing you can do to your relationship – this together with Love will always take you to “let’s fix this”, which is the attitude a couple must adapt if they want a healthy and strong relationship.

Let’s all be honest here, relationships are not always straight forward and there are struggles that you must overcome if you want to have a healthy and happy one.

Adopting healthy habits of communication, interaction, respect, and independence will not only bring you closer to one another but will also strengthen your relationship which in turn will strengthen the lives of those around you.

Remember that all of this starts with you, therefore I ask you to look at yourself and ask:

What is something I can do today for My relationship?

Stop the blaming, the pointing fingers, REMEMBER: is never solely you or me…its us.

When you are committing to another person, you are meant to continue to be you with an extra you to help you build, grow and support you at all times, Remember why did you get together, and STOP putting your partner down.

#TIP TO SORT THINGS OUT#

If things get tough, find a time to speak, look at each other in the eye, hold hands and listen to what he/she is saying, Listen with the intent to understand, resume it back to him/her in a way that shows you really understood. Apologize for how you made him/her feel without trying to blame, point finger, or justifying.

Allow space to be forgiven and hug, kiss, physical touch is so essential.

Lets Now look at unhealthy relationship habits, that most of us have it without even realizing it and what can we do to change it:

Unhealthy relationship habits:

Blaming – pointing the finger at each other without accepting to look at yourself and how you are contributing to your relationship.

What to do? – change your attitude to “let's fix this”, how can I change this?

Excessive jealousy – being too insecure and portraying that insecurity in your relationship, this is a relationship killer

What to do? – set boundaries

Abuse (verbal, emotional, physical)

What to do?- Look for help – You must remove yourself from this environment.

Hurtful jokes – this one tends to be disguised as “it was nothing”, but it was, often people do it without understanding what they are doing it, is never OK to joke about someone’s features, weight, figure, insecurities.

What to do? -Make a stand and do not allow it

Control – when you cannot be yourself because your partner controls everything that you do and you feel suffocated unable to be yourself.

What to do? - You must set boundaries

Unhealthy relationship habits can take you to a toxic environment and will affect your mental health, leading you to stress, anxiety, or depression.

Being on a relationship should be gratifying and not a feeling of being stuck and frustrated.

I wish you enjoy this post and that you can assess your relationship and see how you are feeling, more on this topic will be coming soon, stay tuned.

If you feel that you need one-to-one support to leave an unhealthy relationship and stand back into your power contact me: nuaacademy@gmail.com

@nuacommunity or @nadinhadias

With Love your Coach Nadia