Hey Guys...
The Question that I will be focusing on is:
"What's one of the biggest struggles of being a single mum?"
This was a great question,
I love t chatting about being single, and this post is no way of promoting singleness as everyone is different and desire different things in life.
Well, I have been single most of my life, the relationships I had I often ended out of boredom or something against m nature happen such as lying or cheating.
The longest relationship I had was an on and off for all my life, which again too much drama!!
My last relationship ended a year ago, it was unexpected and it was a shock for me and everyone around us we were the "dream couple". He was the man that ticked all the boxes and he cared for me as no one else would do, he was a family man, always here for me and my kids. But then he "almost" cheated, I say almost because that's how he and others in society refer to his act, therefore I need to forgive him right???...
Nop, not me.
I believe that from the moment we accept such disrespect we are choosing someone else over ourselves, for the time being, would be OK, however in a long run it won't, hence why as Derrick Jaxn says: man dont marry the woman they love but the woman that is thee and accepts it all because they usually change too late for the woman they truly love.
Anyways...
And so I became single again...
Let me tell you a secret as much as I loved being in a relationship I also love being single...
I love to be FREE, to have my space, to do things how I want...I love differently, but when you are single you no longer a TEAM.
And I guess one of the biggest struggles is having to do it on your own, regardless if you are well or unwell if you can or you can't you still have to do it no matter what.
Having to come home and decide everything by yourself sometimes can be exhaustive.
Looking after the kids, the routine, the house... and after such a heavy day jump into an empty bed or not having that special person to share your stories or worries with.
A big question I always had: when your kids are unwell why the dad dont call off sick instead of us?
ANYWAYS...
So what do single mums do when it gets hard?
we call our girls around and...
AH AH AH
drink drink drink...
Let me tell you something that has kept me going all these years: I am Real with where I am, I accept, I embrace like my friend says "nothing bothers you...", is not like nothing bothers me, is just like in life "it is what it is", we cant run against what is meant to be, we can't be where we dont belong without hurting, we cannot find happiness where we are showered by confusion.
If the job is meant to be yours will be if not, no matter how hard you worked for it, it won't be, the same if a man wants you great if he doesn't great.
STOP playing games,
and try do follow what society teaches you or others are doing, or they tell you to do...
Be REAL and the right one will come around.
Meanwhile,
Enjoy xx
With Love Nadia Raquel xx
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