Healthy Relationships: The secret (Abraham Hicks)

Hey Guys!

Today's post is all about a great way to create a healthy relationship,

So many people wonder what is the biggest secret?

Let's be honest,

All that we see on social media with hashtags of #couplegoals #relationshipgoals, these are all amazing and sweet until it makes you feel your relationship is not healthy.

NUMBER ONE RULE: It is all about YOU!

Drop Comparison...

Appreciate where you are, the relationship you have, and your loved one. - This alone will let you analyze where you stand in your relationship, remember the grass always looks greener on the other side.

All creation is about relationships, agree?

For example to create a drawing you need paper and a pencil, thus a relationship between you the pencil and the pencil and the paper exists.

As human beings, we need connection with others as much as we need a connection with ourselves.

Connection; is ultimately one of the most important aspects of life in general for growth, health, and happiness.

During the lockdown due to coronavirus where many were isolated and families unable to see each other, we could observe that the elderly (who did not have the virus) have rapidly deteriorated and passed due to lack of touch (connection) with their loved ones (people are not talking about this, however, it has been real), this shows the importance of connection.

The importance of relationships has been also shown throughout life itself, animals, humans, plants, grow healthier and happier when they are in healthy environments, this is funny because as growing up I remember my grandma saying we must speak with the plants if we want them to live and grow healthy.

I understand now!!

As growing up we were taught about societal roles, how girls should behave, boys too. Girls are taught to sit with their legs closed, to cook, clean the house and so on... often ear things like "Well done you are ready to marry", a girl tends to be brought up to be a mother and a wife to her husband and a man to provide (bring food to the table) and protect his wife and children, and then there they are a loving couple trying to maintain their love while meeting expectations and feel like they have failed.

No one failed...

You cannot expect people to maintain a commitment when they know almost nothing about themselves. When they base their relationship on expectations of another person to make them happy!

Some never had roles in what is healthy and all they do is try to run away from judgment.

YOU CANNOT BASE YOUR HAPPINESS ON SOMEONE ELSE BEHAVIOR -

that's signing up for disappointment and temporary pleasure.

Very little families forget the essential,

the foundation of healthy relationships is the relationship you have with yourself.

Your relationship with your inner being is your primary relationship.

Once this relationship is created any other relationship will flow easily.

Meaning, once you create a relationship with yourself, honor your needs, wants, wishes, your words, and what you do and base your happiness from within instead of expecting the world or your partner to do all you desire to feel peaceful and happy then you cracked it.

Because when you place expectations on someone else to make you happy, you are preparing to fail. We cannot control anything around us especially other people, if we want to be in a relationship we must beware that we receive what we have.

If you have love for yourself you will be receptive to Love

If you have respect for yourself you will be receptive to respect

If you feel secure your relationship will be secure.

The things we often "demand" from our relationships must be created within us and we will not have the need to demand, instead, we will unconditionally love the other person and be receptive to all that we already have. This is being in alignment.

You can only give what you already have inside you.

This is the part not many want to agree with or accept, but it is essential that we can become aware of how the universal laws work and see that all is a reflection of ourselves.

Do you want a great and healthy relationship?

STOP DEMANDING and BECOME IT.

Now I want you to look at your relationship ok?

If you have a notebook write the answers in it and go deep into answering the next questions.

Relationships can be with partners, family, friends (you name it).

- Are you giving anybody else the credit for how you feel?

- You cant focus on feeling good all the time and are you blaming your partner?

- are you living a conditioned life where everything needs to be a certain way so that you can observe, feel good, and respond?

Most people think that the conjunction of these "natural behaviors" is what a relationship should be - in other words, you please me, and as long as you are "pleasing me" I will stick around but don't slip up otherwise I stop loving you.

Please me... and continue doing that...

I want you to pay attention to this!!

this is Conditional Love...

And now I want you to think:

- Do I want them to behave how I want them to behave or I want them to love me because they do and be themselves freely?

Love should not be conditional, we dont love people because they are lovable, and this is the biggest killers of any relationship... conditions, demands, expectations!

STOP!

So now you ask: What do I do?

And I say: Be in alignment with your inner being and you will attract everything you want... You cannot expect to receive what is already inside you from someone else, because otherwise, you will always feel a void.

(when others dont meet your expectations - and they will not because people are not consistent, this will lead you to feel unhappy, whereas if you focus on what you already have you will manifest it all to be just how it should be.)

LOVE, APPRECIATE AND ALIGN

Get to a place where you can say to your other half: "I want to love you and I want you to love me but I don't want to be dependent on how you feel about me, let's be tuned in. Focus on your inner being and let's dance together. " - meaning let's focus on ourselves and meet in the middle, let's love each other unconditionally instead of needing each other to meet our expectations for us to feel loved or love.

Let's take responsibility for how we feel instead of placing the responsibility on others and this alone will make your relationships blossom.

Abraham Hicks put it beautifully:

"it is my powerful promise to you that I will strive in every moment and every day to find my alignment to whom I really am, to tune in to all that I am so that when I look at you is all of me appreciating you, I will do my best to give you all that I am in this moment in time." Abraham Hicks

When you arrive at a place where you can love yourself unconditionally, you will be able to love others the same way. Relationships with others are a reflection of who we are and how we feel.

Sending Love and Light to your way...

with Love Your Coach Nadia Xx

If you feel that you need one-to-one support to leave an unhealthy relationship and stand back into your power contact me: nuaacademy@gmail.com

@nuacommunity or @nadinhadias